1. Attraction is a Game of Psychology, Not Biology
Most men assume that attraction is about biology.
About being more handsome, jacked, rich, genetically gifted, etc. than the next man.
But nothing could be further from the truth.
THE single most attractive man I know (literally the only “10” I’ve ever met in my life) struggles to date the high quality women he desires.
Whereas some of my friends who are—pardon my French—butt ugly and broke, have some of the most amazing partners on the planet.
Because, on average, women care more about how you make them feel then how you look, how much you earn, or how many abs you have.
2. Making Money is Great, Keeping it Is Better
One of THE biggest mistakes I see men making in their 20s and early 30s is conflating a high income with wealth.
I know guys who make multiple 6-figures every month (yes, you read that correctly) but they’re completely broke…
They have multiple vacation homes, expensive cars they never drive, $10,000 suits, and a whole host of other vanity items that suck their networth dry.
How much you make IS important. It’s a lot easier to achieve financial freedom making $150,000 a year than it is $30,000.
But how much you KEEP matters infinitely more.
3. You Are the Only One in Control of Your Feelings
How many times have you heard or said the following…
“They just make me feel so [insert emotion]”?
Let’s set the record straight… this is complete nonsense.
NO ONE has the power to control how you feel. Ever. Period.
You and you alone are responsible for your emotional state. Good and bad.
No one can make you feel happy, sad, pissed off, confused, angry, etc without your permission.
You are always in charge of your emotions and you must take responsibility for them always.
4. How to Take Care of Your Health
If you don’t know how to cook healthy meals, follow a simple exercise program, prioritze and get high quality sleep, manage stress, and take care of your body…
Stop what you’re doing right now and go spend the next 16 hours pouring through everything from Legion Athletics, Bulletproof, and Ben Greenfield.
Nothing will have a bigger impact on your quality of life than your health and if you didn’t prioritize this in your 20s, you MUST start today.
5. How to Start a Conversation with a Stranger
The quality of my life is a result of my ability to spark connection with complete strangers.
Much of my business success is a result of the amazing friends in my network who I met by starting up conversations with people I didn’t know.
All of my romantic success is a result of starting up conversations with attractive women I didn’t know.
If you don’t know how to meet someone new without being creepy or weird, learn how… yesterday.
6. That S£x is About More than the Size of Your P£nis
I’ll refer you back to point #1.
S£x, and most female pleasure is again, psychological, not biological.
It’s about how the woman (or man) you’re with FEELS about you and how you make them feel about themselves.
Want to have mind blowing s£x? Make her feel wanted, desired, make her the sole center of your attention and make her feel like the most beautiful, s£xy, and exciting thing on the planet.
I don’t care how big your member is or how long you can last in the sack… if you don’t know how to seduce a woman intellectually and emotionally… if you don’t know how to arouse her psychologically and create an EXPERIENCE with her…
You’re leaving a lot of pleasure on the table for both you and her.
S£x is a physical expression of an emotion. The more you can build the emotion before “sealing the deal” the better the experience will be.
7. Know Who You Are and What You Want
Your 20s are a time of self-discovery.
They’re meant to be messed up.
But by the time you hit 30, you should have some sense or semblance of what you want to do in this world and who you believe yourself to be.
If you’re still trying to “find” your passion. STOP.
Pick ONE thing that you like (I don’t care if you love it or not) and commit to mastering that one thing.
Success isn’t about passion. It’s about mastery. About committing to the long game and getting good at a valuable skill.
Your 30s are the time to master that skill and lay the foundation for your future.
You had your fun in your 20s, now it’s time to get to work.
8. Freedom of Coice
Although a lot many may argue that it should have been way above the list yet i have deliberately kept it at the end to make it more imperative.. Majority of us are leading our lives as if in a crucible with no air to breathe.. Right from the beginning of your childhood to the threshold of your career days you tend to feel as if being a part of someone else’s choice.. By this age, every man might have felt victimized of being deprived of making one’s own freedom of choice.. Yet life gives everyone many chances and it’s never too late to exercise your freedom of choice and teach who expect something from you about this most blessed gift of our life.. To not impose our choices or our wills over somebody’s will and strangle their freedom to choose..
9. Importance of Family
There may be divided opinions over the institution of family in these days as more and more people are tending to become independent functioning identities; Yet the belief of a strong family is as valid as ever.. You only need to realize the value of it which i believe every person by 30 begins to have the realization of even if it is faintest yet!!
That’s just my $0.02.
I hope it helps.